My mom is in the red...she shuns the camera!

When I got back from Blogher 10 last August I tried to convince my mom to start a blog.  She agreed quickly but it took us some time to figure out her theme.  As she has always secretly wanted to be a bartender I suggested that she review and share different drinks, from kids sippy cups to adults’ wine glasses.

I am proud to announce she has launched her blog this 2011.  Please read her and let her know how cool she is.  GrandmaOnTheRocks.com is where you can find her and she is on Twitter @GmaOnTheRocks

Oh and she is coming to BlogHer11 with me in San Diego! Look out world, here we come :)

 

Last month I posted about my Grandma Williams and the memories I have with her.  Today I want to remember my Grandma Francis.  Both were named Evelyn, both were very different woman.  One was a farmer’s wife and the other a waitress. Both were loved by me.  While dementia took away my Grandma Williams, my Grandma Francis was taken by breast cancer at the age of 52. 

Grandma Francis was the mother of ten kids.  When she died she still had a couple of teenagers in the house. I was only about seven and at the time didn’t realize how young she actually was.  I didn’t see her as much as I saw my Grandma Williams as she worked long hours as a waitress at Howard Johnson’s.  I waitressed through high school and college and can tell you that it was weary on a young body and cannot imagine waitressing through my forties and into my fifties! 

She had glamorous big hair and was very beautiful.  Now I know it was a wig (she had thin hair due to an illness at a young age) but at the time it was amazing to have a grandma with such hair!  She also always had cookies in the cookie jar.  When telling my brother which grandma we were going to go see I would say Cookie Jar Grandma.

I can remember being in her kitchen with my mom and aunts when she pulled up her shirt to show them the mastectomy site.  I left the room.  I remember clearly being embarrassed about seeing my grandmother this way.  I had no idea what was going on.  I hope I did not hurt her feelings by leaving.  I’m sure she knew I was just a kid. I now wish I would have stayed and see the scars, and felt that loss with her. 

I can also remember her in the hospital. They put her on the children’s ward and we couldn’t visit her. She was to weak to come to the window to wave, but my grandpa waved to us.  We handle death so differently now with kids and I am thankful that I have memories of Elle running around and talking to her Pap Pap the day he passed away. She may not remember, but I can tell her about the joy he had watching her at that time.  

I feel a loss of not knowing her more.    I wonder what made her laugh, what made her cry, what her favorite song was? I’ll never learn these things first hand.  I know my mother feels a loss of losing her mother when she was only in her twenties.  I am thirty-five and my mom is my dearest friend.  What would I do without her?  Why has this breast cancer disease been allowed to continue to pillage the lives of our mothers, sisters, daughters and the men in our lives?

We are aware of breast cancer. We know about the pink.  We get mamograms, do self-breast exams and donate money.  What else can we do?  We can help with research and we can work on prevention of the desease.  My next post on breast cancer will be dedicated to the prevention of breast cancer.

 

Cherly’s Cookies sent me two samples of their Cookies For the Cure  cookie they have in honor of this month of pink. Ten percent of the money from said cookies will be given to Susan G. Komen for the Cure (Columbus Affiliate).  Koman has given my area of Ohio grants for woman to get mammograms who cannot afford them. Women without insurance.  Thanks Komen and thanks Cherly’s for donating to this cause.  The cookies were delicious by the way, but of course… they were Cherly’s!

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Grandma Williams and me.

My Grandma Williams was an amazing woman.  Born in 1911, she was the oldest of many children and lived in a rural area. She attended school in an old brick building that is still standing and serves as the Townships garage.  I hear she was at the top of her class and was great at Latin.

Of course that is all stuff I learned after she died.  As a child all I knew was she was the grandma with cookies on the counter, Popsicles  in the freezer and homemade bread raising on the counter-top.  I would pinch some dough from her bread when I thought she was not looking!  She once told my mother that I could live on flour and eggs.

Grandma was a depression grandma. Not the Prozac kind, but the era when nothing was wasted and everything was used multiple ways. This philosophy also made her color-blind apparently as her color choices were not always matching and her fondness of bright pink was obvious!  She made my mom cloth diapers out of old clothes, made my brother and I some hideous looking pajamas (they worked well as  pajamas, but they were made from some really ugly material).

The only time I can remember being mad at Grandma was when she made me tie a piece of  yarn to my favorite cowboy boots to help me remember which foot was my right foot.   I loved those colorful red boots and the orange-red yarn made them so ugly.

With her having seven children and thirteen grand-kids, time alone with grandma was to be treasured.  I loved spending the night with her and sleeping in her big bed.  Of course that was also were I learned breasts can actually touch your knee caps and now I know that this is genetic.  I also marvel at the wonders of God that can make me the exact duplicate of my mother, yet make my profile look so much like my paternal grandma.

Grandma nursed her babies, just like me.  Was she an on-demand feeder or a scheduler?  I have a feeling that she was an on-demand feeder like myself.  She had a soft spot for babies that was evident and I am a Lactation Consultant (hopefully, test still pending!).  She was an adoptive mom to one of her kids through a kinship adoption. What would she have thought of my Ethiopian adoption?  I hope we are alike in even more ways, I am pretty sure I am.

I canned for the first time this year.  I made homemade bread from scratch and ate some dough as it raised.  I reduce, reuse and recycle.  Those mean different things today then a hundred years ago, but it brings me closer to grandma.  I adore hearing about how cheap she was and how she liked a sale.  These things make me think about her more and feel closer to her.

I miss my grandma. It is cruel how our beloved grandparents are often gone before we can know them on an adult level.  Life is like that though and I must learn what I can from stories and pictures and continue the traditions she started in me.

I would love to have those pajamas still. I would make my girls wear them and laugh at the complaints of their ugliness!

Here is my brother in the pajamas I spoke off...sorry dude, I cannot find one of me in them!

 Now that I look at them again, maybe they are kinda cool looking!

 

 

 

Elle had a tumbling demonstration the other day at her  Pre-school.    She is amazing at summersaults and loves the trampoline.  Grandma came to watch and brought flowers! Good job Elle!  We are proud of you!

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